When I first arrived in Groningen, I was immediately struck by how community-forward the city feels. I used to think Charleston was lively and full of activity, but Groningen redefined what that really means.

For starters, the open-air market that pops up three times a week is a hub of energy. It’s not just a place to buy fresh food, it’s an experience. Locals stroll through the stalls in the Vismarkt with their canvas bags and bikes in tow, chatting with vendors, bumping into friends, and grabbing fresh produce, flowers, and warm snacks. It’s alive.

Everywhere you look, the city invites connection. Nearly every café has huge outdoor seating areas, and they’re always full, even when it’s chilly (they have heaters). People gather with friends, sip coffee, wine, or beer (or all three) and just be. It made me realize how fast-paced life in the U.S. can be. In Groningen, it’s normal, even expected, to take time to enjoy your surroundings and the people you’re with.

The concept of “third places” – those public, social spaces outside of home and work – thrives here. It feels like there’s a fun event happening every day, whether it’s a concert, market, or some random Tuesday night out. Seriously, people go out at 2 a.m. on a Tuesday. And places are always full; bookstores, coffee shops, restaurants, even vintage stores feel like gathering spots, not just businesses.

Then there’s the biking. At first, I was terrified. The bike lanes are sacred territory and getting in the way is not recommended unless you want to get run over. There are actual traffic rules just for cyclists. But once I got the hang of it (after a day or two), I fell in love. Biking everywhere makes you feel more in touch with the city and your day.

Other quirks I’ve noticed? Everything is self-checkout, grocery stores, clothing shops, even some cafes. And paying people back is unbelievably easy; banking apps let you send money instantly with just a couple clicks. Also, the buildings here are all historic and of different shapes and the streets are all made of brick and cobblestone. Theres no concrete in sight within the city center.

If anything, it’s going to be hard going back to the U.S. where third places are rare and life moves faster. Groningen has shown me how powerful community spaces can be and how much joy there is in just being out in the world, apart from school, work, and home.